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Wednesday, July 18, 2007

single dilemna

My friend asked me why I was giving her such a hard time about her recent slew of dates. That's easy. I'm jealous.

She had not been single for 48 hours when she met the guy she's now dating. And she had various other prospects going for a while, as well.

Lately, since I've been asking for help with my writer's block, I've had friends try to figure out the reasons behind why I haven't been "snatched up" as one put it.

Particularly since I met some of the same guys as my friend at the same time, and she was the one that got and gave digits, and I just talked to friends.

So, I thought I'd try to dissect their reasons, see if I can help get past the writer's block.

- Some tell me I'm too independent. Read: I won't let a guy do things for me.

There's probably a little truth to that, particularly when I first meet people. I am terrible at playing the damsel in distress. But although I don't need a guy, I do want one.

- Some tell me I'm too picky. Read: They think I need to lower my standards.

I disagree. I give most anyone a chance. At least I think I do. But, just like anyone else, I do have a few "deal breakers" and a few things I hope to find in a guy.

- Some tell me I appear too busy. Read: I am too busy.

I am too busy, sometimes. But I'm also very good at making time for the people that are worthy of it. Perhaps that's the problem. The worthiness factor. Perhaps I need to re-visit the issue above.

- Some tell me I don't know how to flirt. Read: I don't know how to flirt.

My sister-in-law came up with this one. I fear she may be right. I'm not good at flirting. The only way I can attempt to flirt lately is through sarcasm. And lots of people just don't get it. On the other hand. I have been known to flirt, on occasion, in teh past, when the mood strikes.

Perhaps all I need is to find my way back to my flirty mood. Now where in the world did I last see it?


hubs said...

i've got it here in my pocket.

(now that's how you flirt!)

Julie said...

I had ALL of the same problems. OK, except the flirting one, I'm a flirt to the core. But I had the job, the high standards and the packed calendar. For the RIGHT guy, it all came together.

That said, it doesn't hurt to flirt. Even if the love of your life doesn't come out of it, it lightens your heart and puts YOU in a better place.

hubs said...

as a side note, we ALL have the job, packed, calender, and high standards.

Glitter said...

You can do it! I have faith...