tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12603642.post7671291359644542994..comments2023-04-11T03:15:36.298-06:00Comments on ramblings of a curious mind: having doubtsramblin' girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05101217614181692147noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12603642.post-16345593573872422792007-04-04T18:09:00.000-06:002007-04-04T18:09:00.000-06:00Thanks everyone. Really apprecieate the advice... ...Thanks everyone. Really apprecieate the advice... <BR/><BR/>Jen and Hubs, I know he's testing me. I even called him out on it. Told him it had nothing to do with us. But after discussing it with my mother (yes, Jen, I talked to her before I ever discussed it with him), I decided not to push the issue with her after everything she's dealing with right now. She just doesn't need it... <BR/><BR/>I ramblin' girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05101217614181692147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12603642.post-84662601200402901212007-04-04T14:41:00.000-06:002007-04-04T14:41:00.000-06:00amy julie and glitter have valid points but i'm mo...amy julie and glitter have valid points but i'm more with jen on this one.<BR/><BR/>if the focus should be ENTIRELY on your brother, with no compromise and nothing else should be of concern, then why invite him at all. it seems to me a wedding would be the perfect time to show some compromise to those who love you.<BR/><BR/>of course he is testing you. it's one thing to be respectful and another Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12603642.post-9738656767446915922007-04-03T16:36:00.000-06:002007-04-03T16:36:00.000-06:00This is a tough one. I am not sure why he would c...This is a tough one. I am not sure why he would choose tp push this particular issue, but here is my theory. I think it is one of two situations. <BR/><BR/>The first scenario would be that because you have had to put family first a lot lately, now he is testing you to see if you can ever put his wishes first. He wants to know if it is always going to be your family that takes precedence even Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349765563150981854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12603642.post-72231191662313520782007-04-03T13:17:00.000-06:002007-04-03T13:17:00.000-06:00I totally agree with Julie and Amy. There's comes ...I totally agree with Julie and Amy. There's comes a time when you have to compromise if you love that person and treat your family and your wishes with respect. One night is not going to kill him.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12519224953463428308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12603642.post-70704883004554304342007-04-03T08:55:00.000-06:002007-04-03T08:55:00.000-06:00Yeah, what Amy said. I'm not sure what he's hoping...Yeah, what Amy said. I'm not sure what he's hoping to accomplish by drawing this line in the sand, but if he's not willing to respect the dynamics of your family, he's being childish and passive aggressive. And you don't need that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12603642.post-84399646482818313472007-04-03T07:43:00.000-06:002007-04-03T07:43:00.000-06:00I so agree with you. Completely. 100%. Your bro...I so agree with you. Completely. 100%. Your brother's wedding is NOT the time for you to raise eyebrows or leave your mark on your mother. You are completely correct. The focus should be entirely on your brother. And this might tarnish your mother's memory of the event just ever so slightly and you don't want to do that. <BR/><BR/>Do not compromise on this issue. You are correct in keepingAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07797634231980014686noreply@blogger.com